Posted by Meriel Swain on (comments: 0)
Yes, I can
Uh-oh, it's Halloween! Is your house full of bowls of sweeties to give to the Trick or Treaters?
I can remember a time when I'd buy an extra bag of fun-size chocs and I'd tell myself that it was better to have too many than too few. And then eat them the next day! Now I don't buy any and don't answer the door. Humbug.
This isn't a blog about Halloween though. It's about making excuses. Here are some of mine:
It's not my thing; I don't like crowds; I'm big boned; my family isn't sporty; if I haven't got a phobia myself then I can't cure them; if I only eat two meals a day I can have a chocolate bar. And so on. We've all got them, we are all embarrassed about them and yet we trot them out with alarming regularity.
My job as a coach is to spot when a client is making one. My stock response is 'what needs to happen so that you can'. Sometimes it works. Sometimes I get more excuses. Eventually I might ask the client what needs to happen for them to stop making excuses!
I'm quite sure mine are there because I fear failure. Some are there because I like all sorts of foods which aren't helpful for me and I have a little 'reward' internal dialogue going on. It's failure in the main. I blogged about failure vs feedback about a month ago, and the notion of feedback is critical here.
If you knew you couldn't fail, you'd take that step forward. If you knew that you'd learn something from taking that step and get some confidence along the way, you'd do it.
So, I'll ask again. What needs to happen so that you can?
If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse.
I think Nike tapped into the motivation market, don't you?