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What will your epilogue say?
"If you want your life to be a magnificent story, then begin by realising that you are the author." Mark Houlahan.
This got me thinking about epilogues. An epilogue is a section or chapter at the end of a play or a book which serves as a comment or conclusion to what has happened. A concluding act or event. Different from an epitaph which is a form of words written in memory of someone who has died.
To me, an epilogue is almost like a closing executive summary of what's happened in the story. It draws the story to a conclusion and often it's where the truth of the story is revealed.
Mark Houlahan's quote is telling us that we hold the key, the power if you like, to shaping our own story. It encourages us to be accountable for our lives. Our actions. Our thoughts. We are our narrator. In fact, I also heard it once said that the most important story you will ever tell is the one you tell yourself.
Recently I've been using a nifty little timeline exercise with clients who have been struggling to let go of an unhelpful behaviour or mindset, and in particular the mindset of life being done to them. Imagine if you could walk to the end of your life today and look back at it (or write the epilogue). And in doing so, if you'd kept the unwanted behaviour, what would your epilogue say? And then repeat the exercise with having let go of the unwanted behaviour. With you firmly in command, the narrator and author? I guarantee your life will look very different and your epilogue will be a magnificent flourish at the end of your story.
Don't give away the rights of your story to someone else. Take up the pen yourself and write your own magnificent story.
You may ask, why the peacock? When you Google 'magnificent', it's surprising the number of times that an impage of a peacock is returned in the results. Trust mother nature, eh?