Posted by Meriel Swain on (comments: 0)
My crystal ball
I'm a bit of a romantic, and often have all sorts of romantic fantasies (no, not in that way) about my life. It's not just a case of dreaming though, I manage to create and set expectations of how I want things to be. That's okay, isn't it?
On Valentine's Day, if I wonder if you are dreaming, like me, of the perfect romantic evening? My partner would simply say to me 'Go with the flow.' And he's right. Go with the flow, enjoy the moment.
The positive intention of setting expectations is that they motivate you to achieve great things. The challenge is that other people have to meet your expectations, as you don't only set them for you, unconsciously you set them for everyone else.
And having set the expectation, I then worry about whether it'll be met and worry about what to do when it isn't met. I become over-wrought with emotion, which is really unhelpful for me and everyone else. Anais Nin said: We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.
What if I set the expecation for my own behaviour only, as honestly that's the only bit that's within my gift? You'd think I'd have learned that one by now, lol!! If I did that, then everything else would be a bonus. I'd be able to roll with it.
Why the picture of the rocking chair at the top. Well, here's the thing. Worry is like a rocking chair, it will give you something to do, but it won't get you anywhere.
So take a deep breath and relax into whatever wonderful romance is coming your way today :)