Posted by Meriel Swain on (comments: 0)
It'll be perfect!
They say that nobody is perfect. Then they tell you that practice makes perfect. I wish they'd make up their minds. Winston Churchill.
That quote made me laugh out loud. It's a paradox isn't it? As a child, it's drummed into you that practice makes perfect. We are being programmed to be the best, to succeed in life. And when the wheels come off, you frequently hear your friends tell you that no-one is perfect, it's reassuring.
Whichever one you choose, our focus is on pefectionism. Setting high expectations for ourselves and others. I can remember the first Christmas in a new house and all the family coming to stay. I wanted it to be perfect. I was so unbelievably stressed. It was all planned, stage managed. And now I can't remember anything about it, I was too busy trying to be perfect instead of enjoying the moment.
In February, I took to the stage for the first time since being at school. When rehearsals began I put myself under enormous pressure to learn my lines quickly, and be perfect. Be the best. I didn't have a good time. Then about a week before the performance, I realised it would be so much easier if I let go of perfection. I was in the village play - get some perspective! What's the worst that can happen? I realised I'd have so much more fun if I was just me, having a bit of a laugh. I relaxed, felt the weight of perfectionism removed from my shoulders.
What's keeping you awake at night? Maybe you'll notice whether it's the expectations of others, or your own high standards causing your sleeplessness....
"The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself."
As you can see, I had a bit of a laugh as The Wife of Bath :o)